Should I Tell My Mom About My Eating Disorder? Read the Question Please?

Question by JulesM: Should I tell my mom about my eating disorder? Read the question please?
I have had an eating disorder for over 5 years. Last year, I told my mom and we went to the doctor and I was diagnosed anorexic (but I have always had bulimic tendencies) and had “treatment” and gained huge amounts of weight so I’m covered in fat now. Anyway, I still fast or restrict sometimes, but I am actually bulimic now (haven’t been diagnosed with BN though). I binge and purge on average 4 times a week. Obviously I know the health complications- teared esophagus, ruptured stomach, teeth damage, death etc.. It is not that simple so don’t say anything stupid like “Just stop. Don’t you know it’s so bad for you?” Because yes, I do know, and no, I can’t stop. Why do you think so many people die from eating disorders? It’s not as easy as just stopping the behaviors.

I haven’t talked to my mom about my ED for almost a year. She just doesn’t like thinking about it so kind of ignores it. My question is, should I talk to her about it? I’m going away to college next month and so obviously she can’t do anything about it and she might feel really out of control when I go away. I think she thinks I’m all better now and I’m worried about myself. I don’t still see a doctor now. So If I don’t say anything to my mom (the only person who knows other than doctors) I’m worried that I might die within the next few years or that there might be irreversible damage soon. If I DO tell her, there is not enough time to get treatment before college, I am going a long way from home, and I’m worried that she’ll be stressed out for the whole time I’m away at college. There are eating disorder specialists I can see when I go away. I shouldn’t tell her right?

What do you think? Should I tell her? You can give yes or no answers or long answers if you want to. Thank you.
Thank you so much everyone. I was expecting all the answers to be no I shouldn’t tell her and it’s selfish that I’m considering telling her.

Thanks to everyone, I will tell her.

Best answer:

Answer by Space Cadet
You should probably tell your mother. Eating disorders are serious; I almost lost a friend to malnutrition a few years ago.

Honestly, your mom probably won’t stress that much. College health centers are incredibly used to dealing with people with eating disorders. They’ll probably have a specialist there to help you, so your mom will know you’re in good hands.

She’ll probably be a little upset at first because you were hiding it from her, but she’d ultimately be relieved that you decided to get help.

Answer by layla
You seem very smart and aware of your problem and its implications so I am sure you will make the right choice for yourself. Speak to your mother about it and tell her that you will see a specialist in the area you are going to college or even a therapist in the college. Even if she will be worried it’s really, REALLY important that she knows what you are going through. It’s amazing that you care about your mother and want to spare her the grief but worrying about you is part of her job and even if she worries trust me that she will be very glad she is aware of what is happening with you.

Just tell your mother that you are going to do something about it and maybe you can update her about your situation once a week once you are away so she can not worry too much.

Good luck in overcoming your disorder.


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